I had several posts in draft that sat unpublished because they have the potential to be controversial and I’m not in much of a fighting mood of late. However, since I am taking a hiatus to prepare for the holidays, clean upholstery and closets, and enjoy some quality time with Secret Agent Man over the next couple of months, I will make my bold pronouncements, defend them over the next few days, then wish you all a blessed holiday season and a happy New Year:
~Codified Female Irresponsibility and Immorality: If there is a short, succinct way for me to describe why feminism makes my skin crawl, that would be it. We have taken women’s immorality and irresponsibility, deemed it holy and enshrined it as the law of the land, while continuing to hold men to the higher standards of generations past. We punish men for their immoral behavior while excusing women’s as if they are children.
I thought feminism bothered me because of the perpetual victimhood, since I am equally turned off when minorities claim perpetual victimhood regardless of their choices. It’s different however, when it comes to women because we can use poor judgment and make immoral choices then have the law back us up. Blacks and other ethnic minorities don’t even enjoy that luxury, even after all of the legal gains of the past 50 years. Check the prison stats if you doubt me.
A woman can abort a baby whether the father wants his child or not. She can sue him for 18 years of child support whether he wants to be a father or not. Women can kill their husbands, claim battered woman syndrome, and get off even if there is no past evidence of abuse. Never mind that the accused abuser is dead and unable to defend himself. Mary Winkler is just one example among far too many. I have a book to recommend for those who doubt my assertions:
~The Myth of Male Power: For my sisters who continue to stubbornly cling to the belief that feminism is a benign movement devoted to female equality and not female supremacy, I highly recommend this book by Warren Farrell, the first man to sit on the board of the National Organization for Women. In other words, this is not some patriarchy-obsessed preacher trying to keep women in their place. I don’t even think he’s a believer. I didn’t agree with everything in the book because I believe that the God-created differences between men and women shouldn’t be summarily dismissed with psyco-babble when discussing these issues. Men and women do have gender-specific strengths and weaknesses and we shouldn’t try and create a world where that isn’t acknowledged for a pseudo-equality that will never truly exist. Our differences complement each other. However, the fact that Mr. Farrell is able to show the blatant injustice and hypocrisy of the feminist movement using facts and verifiable data makes this book resonate even if you don’t agree with all of his conclusions. In other words, you don’t need to be religious to see the problem here. You just need to be willing to look objectively.
~I support reproductive equality for men: I have come full circle with respect to my thoughts on Roe vs. Wade ever being overturned. It probably won’t. Even if it is, abortion will remain legal in most states with few restrictions. I will always vote pro-life, but there is something we can do now to ensure true justice and reduce the numbers of abortions. It ain’t politically correct, but we can save some babies rather than none waiting for an ideal outcome we may never get in a nation with laws increasingly hostile to what we believe. We should do what’s doable, which means discouraging out-of-wedlock pregnancies to begin with. You can know if you’re truly interested in equality by your reaction to what I’m about to suggest next.
Give men the equal right to choose or not choose fatherhood along with all corresponding responsibility and rights. Women would be in same position as women generations prior knowing they have no legal right to a man’s livelihood without prior agreement that he wants or at least expects to be a father, with all the legal rights as well as responsibilities it entails. Marriage used to serve that function and should again. Actually, women wouldn’t be in exactly the same position as women in prior generations, because they can still avail themselves of the numerous birth control options available. In a few years’ time, out-of-wedlock pregnancies would decrease along with a corresponding drop in the number of abortions. Besides, it’s the right thing to do legally according to laws of the land as outlined in the 14th Amendment. I am not saying that men should be able to force women to have abortions. In fact, I’m saying just the opposite.
~I thought this video was very interesting: I ask in advance that you disregard the caption at the top, because it’s irrelevant. That a mainstream, Oscar-winning female celebrity would endorse marriage where the husband leads and the wife submits isn’t something you hear every day. I didn’t embed because the views are expressed in an unChristian tone, though nothing vulgar or over the top when discussing marriage.
I’ve said here before that I have no expectation that unbelievers would or even should adhere to the Biblical commands concerning marriage and family, but this is an sure sign that anyone can see that something is terribly wrong with our families.I hope I’ve shed light on why I feel the way I do about feminism.
Scripture says in Romans 1 that God’s attributes are clearly seen in nature, and that our deliberate rejection of God and His ways leads to a moral abyss that we cannot climb out of apart from Him. We’ve chosen to worship a God made in our own image and the results, if not the true solution are apparent to all who dare to look, believers and non-believers alike.
More and more people are looking at the landscape and figuring out that marriage interdependence with different responsibilities don’t give one person power over another, but free each partner in a marriage to maximize their potential to love and work together as a team. Most men are not and never were as powerful as we have been brainwashed to believe anyway.
Women were duped into equating the drudgery of employment with power, even though most men will tell you they feel anything but powerful breaking their backs every day (literally or figuratively) to bring home the bacon. This really isn’t about whether women work or not, though my feelings on that subject are well-documented. They have evolved a bit since I believe that what the husband of the family decides works best for the family is what matters, not my opinion no matter how passionate.
It’s about blossoming in our God-ordained positions within our families, which may or may not include paid work, but definitely includes submission to and respect for our husbands. This means not bad-mouthing them, not killing them, and not trying to pass off children conceived through illicit affairs as theirs and demanding court-ordered child support, among other things. Christians should not be supportive of a system that not only allows such injustice to flourish, but rewards it. If we can’t agree on that, then I don’t know what more I can say. But fair warning: I will continue to say it!
I am blessed to know good women who love their husbands and children and understand how this unrestricted choice on the part of women alone harms men, children and families. Many of you who read here are excellent women, godly wives, and devoted mothers. Still, I find myself dismayed that Christian women don’t appreciate what all of this means for their sons and daughters, their brothers, even their husbands. Lest we think our children are automatically immune from the problems because we are raising them in Christian homes, let me remind you that Matthew Winkler was a preacher whose alleged abuse has still never been proven, when his wife shot him in the back, served 60 days in jail, and retained custody of their children. We need to be willing to first see, and then speak, the truth. That starts with understanding that we have been fed a steady diet of lies for the past 40 years. Women collectively haven’t had it nearly as bad as we’ve been told. At least we’ve not had it any worse than men.
Holiday greetings to everyone who reads this!
Enjoy a blessed Thanksgiving, a Merry Christmas, and a Happy and Prosperous New Year.
See y’all next year.