…On the subject of marriage, that is.
It was my intention to stick with Sheila through the entire 2011 calendar year and participate in Wifey Wednesday. I have a heart for marriages and what we can do as wives to have great marriages. The more I think about this, however, the more I realize that it really comes down to a few key issues, most of which need to be individualized by each couple. And most of them I have addressed here repeatedly:
- Obey the Scripture. Yes, this means submit to your husband. Your own husband that is. I know it’s not popular.
- Pray for wisdom, guidance, and the right spirit when dealing with your man.
- Realize that love by definition, is focused on the other person’s needs and not your own. “But what about me?” really isn’t a loving question. This is not a dismissal of a wife’s needs. Please don’t interpret it as such.
- Listen to your husband. Pay attention. Most of what I learned about what makes my husband tick came through paying attention to him. He would same the same about me. For example, does he react particularly pleased when you wear a certain color or appreciate something he does that you might think is insignificant? Learn his love language. You may never have a “moment of truth” on some of these matters but attention to details can make or break a relationship.
- Give your husband the permission to speak freely. To express his opinions without fear of retribution from you. This, from what I have witnessed, is a major issue for women, although they have no problem expressing a litany of complaints to and about their husbands.
- Sex, meeting his needs, and expressing yours. I shouldn’t have to say more than that so in the interest of discretion, I won’t.
Committing to making an effort in these 6 areas will work wonders in any marriage. It requires selflessness and consistency. But our marriage are worth it, are they not?
Have a wonderful Wednesday.
This post is a part of Wifey Wednesday hosted by Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. There’s an excellent post up today written from the male perspective. Click on over today and every Wednesday for more wifely encouragement.
It has been an honor to participate in this effort with Sheila.