Since there is mostly silence on this story throughout the blogosphere, I thought I’d shine a small spotlight on the plight of this married father who had his child stolen and given up for adoption without his consent. And even though the courts have ruled that the adoption should never have gone through, the adoptive parents are fighting, claiming that “God gave them this baby.”
Frankly, I’m too livid to offer any meaningful commentary, mainly because I know that this would never happen to a birth mother. Still, I thought this guy’s story needs to be read by as many Americans as possible:
In a 48-page ruling, Judge Darold McDade said the Adoption Center of Choice’s policy of refusing to disclose any information to Terry Achane once he learned what had happened to his baby is “utterly indefensible.”
Salt Lake City attorneys Mark and Scott Wiser, the father/son team that represented Achane, used even stronger language for what occurred.
“This is a case of human trafficking,” said Mark Wiser. “Children are being bought and sold. It is one thing what [adoption agencies] have been doing with unmarried biological fathers. It is in a new area when they are trying to take a child away from a married father who wants to have his child.”
Jared and Kristi Frei, the adoptive parents, declined to comment, as did Kasey Wright, their former attorney, and Larry Jenkins, newly hired to represent the couple. James Webb, executive director of the Adoption Center of Choice, based in Orem, did not return a call from The Salt Lake Tribune. The Tribune attempted to reach Tira Bland, the birth mother who is now divorced from Achane, but was unsuccessful.
On a blog about the case, where the Freis have raised more than $20,000 to help with legal bills, they vow to appeal McDade’s decision, describing the arrival of Achane’s daughter in their lives “a righteous desire blessed to fruition by God.”
The original story is several pages long, but these are the facts that matter:
- This man was married to the mother of his daughter at the time of the birth and had every expectation that immediately upon the birth, he would be reunited with his wife, stepchild, and newborn in another state where he’d taken a position as a drill instructor.
- The adoption agency and the adoptive parents knew full well that he hadn’t consented to the adoption and went through with it anyway
- The wife, and I use the word loosely, put her husband through this hellish ordeal because she was unhappy in the marriage.
Okay, I’m done.
No, wait. He still hasn’t gotten his daughter back, and she’s 21 months old at this point.
Now I’m done.